Let me preface this blog with the assurance that I’m not currently homesick or feeling depressed, as a blog post with this title might suggest. I was just looking back through the titles of my blog posts and realising that I’ve covered so much of what it’s like to be in Tanzania, and that it might be a nice change to focus on the UK. After all, that’s where I’m from! So let me tell you, in no particular order, some of the things I miss about home.
1) Flat roads. I’m well aware that in Dar es Salaam we do have a lot of main roads that have tarmac, and I’m very grateful for them. But the minute you turn off you have dirt roads to contend with. I don’t particularly mind the fact that you have to drive slowly on them, but you do have to grit your teeth some of the time and roll with all the bumps and jolts and throws to the left or right. Never take flat roads for granted, and also, possibly, never moan about pot holes in UK roads!
2) McDonalds. I know: really? But the fact is, every now and then a McDonalds would be nice. When Dan picks me up from the airport whenever I land in the UK, the first place we stop is the service station to have a McDonalds. Unfortunately, McDonalds has not branched out into Tanzania, but KFC and Subway are doing well.
3) Seasons. Despite what you might think, perpetual sunshine (with the occasional downpour of rain) is not as wonderful as it sounds. Some days, of course, it is beautiful. The colours are so vibrant and so defined, and you never feel cold. But part of me would really love to see flowers reappearing after the winter, and the days getting longer. Part of me would love to see the leaves turning red, brown and gold and falling from the trees. I’m very grateful that I have been able to come home at Christmas time each year so that I can see winter, but I miss spring and autumn.
4) Wearing jeans! Today is actually a rare day because I am, in fact, wearing a pair of jeans. Due to the torrential rain we’ve had and the cloud cover of the day, it is cool enough to wear them, but most of the time that isn’t possible. And it’s not just that they make you feel a little hot, it’s that they soak through with sweat, which is not a pleasant feeling, and you have to peel them off. Considering that they were my first choice of leg wear for the majority of my life up until moving to Tanzania, I really miss wearing them nowadays.
5) Events. In many ways, I don’t feel like my life as a missionary has forced me to sacrifice very much, but one thing I genuinely miss is going to big events, or even small events, back home with the people I care about. I’ve missed weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, meals out, celebrations and trips out. I know full well that in being here, I’ve experienced things that I would never have had chance to back in the UK, and I really wouldn’t change them. But I almost wish I could have been in two places at once.
6) Friends and family. Couldn’t do a ‘what I miss’ blog without mentioning this motley crew. In all fairness, things like Skype, WhatsApp, Facebook and emails mean that I can keep in touch with the people I care about very easily, and I’m thankful for all these fantastic means that God has given us to communicate. However, you can’t hug someone through Skype; you can’t sit and watch TV in the evening with them; you can’t just turn up and hang out, or go for a drink or a meal. These are all things that I did with my friends and family all the time in the UK. Of course, I do these things with my friends here in Dar, but I wish I could do them with everyone I love and care about.
7) British culture. I was never much of an advocate for British culture before coming to Tanzania, but the more I’m away from it, the more I miss it. In many ways I couldn’t even tell you which parts I miss. I just know that Tanzanians, and all the different nationalities that I interact with everyday, don’t always act or think in the way I expect people to. And not because they’re doing things wrong, but because they’re doing things differently to the way I have lived my life for over twenty years. There are different focuses, different expectations, different social conventions, and you have to be aware of them nearly all the time. Some days it’s really interesting, some days it’s exhausting and some times it’s frustrating. The truth is that anyone who has grown up in the UK has a shared experience: from TV shows to national tragedies, to social issues, to food palates, to how you spend time with friends, to how you deal with conflict. Even if we’re not all the same, we at least can begin to understand the differences, because we’re starting from a baseline of culture. Sometimes I really just miss being a British person surrounded by British people.
8) Ant and Dec. Because who wouldn’t miss Ant and Dec? I can watch YouTube clips, I know, but that’s not the same as sitting down in an evening and watching the two of them in whatever show they happen to be hosting at the time. Familiar entertainers whom everybody knows and, as far as I can tell, everyone likes.
9) Sunday Lunch. My mum does, hands down, the best Sunday lunch in the world, and I have missed nearly a hundred and fifty of them! My Sunday lunch in Dar is not too bad, especially now that we tend to eat out on a Sunday, but nothing I have ever eaten for dinner here on a Sunday has come close to my mum’s Sunday lunch.
10) Pets. I love having pets. I, or my family, have always had pets, and even at university, my housemates and I had a hamster. At some point in the last few years I have wanted the following animals as pets: dogs, cats, geckos, chickens, monkeys, mongooses (no idea if that’s the plural), elephants, guinea-pigs and tortoises. I’m quite certain that when I get back to the UK and have my own place, I will put a pet in there (probably not an elephant!).
So there you have it: ten things that I miss. Let me reiterate the fact that I am quite happy being in Dar, but that’s not to say there aren’t things that I wish were here too!